As a young woman in art school — at the exploratory age of 20 — there were two things I wanted above all else: To have a kitten and to get a tongue piercing. The tongue piercing, however, I wanted because I found them to be wholly intriguing. In my mind, making the choice to pierce my tongue was a way for me to exercise my unalienable rights in regard to my body and to dive into the realm of body modifications which represent absolute individualism in my opinion. So knowing my heart's utmost desires, my dear, sweet roommate opted to get me a tongue piercing as a gift. Overjoyed and filled with youthful enthusiasm, my roommates and I called a reputable tattoo and piercing parlor, made an appointment, and piled into a car. The trip was short, the piercing was smooth, and despite a rather large wave of initial anxiety while I sat waiting for the piercer to grab my tongue in the little sterile pincer, everything went according to plan. As time went on, I learned to love my tongue piercing. It became a genuine extension of my personality and despite the fact that many conservative family members didn't understand it, I knew that the choice was right for me at the time. The tongue ring signified to me a certain level of strength and perseverance. It's not an extremely difficult piercing to get or maintain, but it does take quite a bit of courage to stare a needle down as it goes through an organ you use actively every day.
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Remember back in school when every popular kid had a tongue piercing and you were just that boring, ear-pierced nerd whose parents would never let them be so cool? Well apparently, that still happens today because pierced tongues are actually still a thing. Think again. Prices will vary depending on what piercing you go to, but those are the average figures. Unless you want like a Swarovski crystal in your mouth, then that might be abit extra. However, the most common refusal is if you have a vein placed where you want your tongue pierced. Also, if you have any health conditions that include nerve issues or paralysis you may be refused. All of this is highly dependent on your piercer, if they feel confident they can pierce without risks, then they will.
The sexualization of tongue piercings probably mostly has to do with the fact that many people fetishize almost anything involving mouths. Plus, data shows that women with body modifications are especially sexualized by the general public — something that was reinforced when I asked the piercing subreddit about the origins of this stigma, and one commenter boiled it down to a broad sexualization of body modifications sic :. Societal assumptions aside, though, the evidence does suggest that tongue piercings have the capacity to improve oral sex. This concept has been co-opted by several sex-toy manufacturs, who have released vibrating tongue rings constructed specifically for sexual purposes. But even though a tongue piercing — and especially a vibrating one — could improve your oral abilities, Rodgers says her clients rarely have them for that reason. Tattoo artist Sarah Wakefield, who sported not one but two tongue piercings in the s, mostly agrees with this analysis. To that end, the same redditor from above says, contrary to everything we know so far, that her partner prefers mouth parties without tongue piercings involved sic :.
Most girls just wish that by their 18th birthday they can finally get their belly buttons pierced without their parents knowing. I was different, I wanted a tongue piercing. Ear piercings they understand. Well, fuck that. Do you know what was one of the biggest reasons why I wanted a tongue piercing? Because I was scared. I was scared of the idea of having any kind of needle penetrate my skin, anywhere. Even getting my ear lobes pierced was an event filled with tears for me. I was just scared. The pain aspect, yes of course, but more than that.