Some facts of life are sad but true, and one of these facts is that climaxing for many women is anything but easy. In fact, a recent survey from Valparaiso University in Indiana showed that more than half of women who struggle to orgasm attribute the problem to anxiety. Plus, because of the complex nature of the condition, other hangups can be heightened during sex, causing a vicious cycle of worry and frustration. Brenner writes in Psychology Today. If you feel that anxiety may be playing a role in your sex life, talk to a therapist. Women who have trouble reaching orgasm are almost always told to "just relax. Weston writes for WebMD. The Valparaiso University survey also indicated that nearly a quarter of women who had difficulty reaching orgasm blamed insufficient lubrication. Lubes are available drugstores and online.
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I get asked about orgasms at least once a week—that's just life as a sex researcher for you. Considering how fleeting the actual experience really is—most times, an orgasm lasts just 10 to 20 seconds—I've always found it interesting how much achieving one matters to people. After all, orgasms are just one way that people judge whether a sexual experience was satisfying. But just because orgasms are fleeting doesn't mean there isn't a lot for researchers like me to dig into. Countless studies have been done on orgasms—like who is having the most of them , the weird things that happen after we have them, and yes, how to increase the odds that you have many, many more, if that's what you're after. Here are a few of the most significant—and surprising—things I wish I could explain to everyone who asks. Side note: Although most women are females and most men are males, we understand that gender and sex don't always line up. That said, we use the terms "women" and "men" in this article because they best reflect the participants in the studies, who are usually just described as such—meaning, there's no indication how many were cisgender, transgender, etc. I Orgasms aren't just about sex.
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For people with a clitoris or a vagina, this is how to achieve an orgasm on your own terms. But we forget that on the screens, especially the small ones pornography , an orgasm is often performative. They can visibly ejaculate. Sex and relationship expert Dr. When asked to describe orgasm, the responses vary wildly.